Bullies are rapists of the mind. Bullies rape your mind over and over through their microaggressions, taking your sanity from you piece by piece.
It is horrible that rape and bullying share a culture of shame perpetuated by the very people who witness it. Real shame lies in discouraging victims from speaking up, taking action, and pointing a finger at their aggressors.
Don’t take bullying lightly. It isn’t likely to go away unless you expose and confront the bully.
Please think twice before you tell a victim of bullying to keep quiet or let things go. Bullying isn’t something anyone should try to silence.
We have to speak out. We have to stand up.
We have to fight the bully.
Many of us are under the impression that exposing a bully is a form of bullying itself. It is not. Exposing a bully is not bullying.
Of course, that doesn’t stop a bully from claiming that you’re the one being the bully if you expose him. Case in point: The cyberbully I mentioned in a previous post tried to twist things around, saying that exposing him was akin to humiliating him. (Here’s more on why a bully will try to claim you’re bullying him instead.)
If you don’t want to be exposed publicly for being a rapist, pervert, or bully, then don’t be one.
As long as you refrain from ad hominem attacks and name-calling, you’re not bullying anyone. You’re protecting yourself, not to mention his future victims.
According to Mental Health Support in the UK, “Bullying [behavior] cannot continue to have its desired effect if the intended victim successfully stands up to the bully. Once you have identified a bully and know what to expect from him or her, you must choose not to be a victim, if you want the bullying to stop. Expose the bullying for what it is. Take a stand, and don’t back down.”
It continues to say, “Confrontation and exposure, with evidence to support a victim’s accusations, are what the bully tries hardest to avoid. Once exposure happens, the bullying is likely to stop.”